You opened your eyes to a routine day. Regardless of what you do, whether you work or not, your marital status, where you live, your age, and in fact, regardless of everything, you have come into contact with many different people for many different reasons. Then, as the day ends, you think, I feel lonely…
You’ve probably experienced this before. Sounds familiar, right?
Why? Because you spent the whole day with superficial communication. While talking to your loved one, he/she might have been looking at his/her phone screen, your best friend had a different agenda and interrupted you and started talking about his/her own topic, while talking to your mother on the phone, you heard the news anchor’s voice coming from the TV… Then you thought, I feel lonely.
You didn’t feel like anyone was really listening to you. Of course, you didn’t think of it that way, did you?
“Active Listening” has many equivalents in our country. How does the other person touch our lives when they listen to us actively?
- Not only what comes out of our mouths, but also our feelings are revealed,
- We receive non-judgmental, empathetic support,
- We feel that we are truly understood and cared for,
- We strengthen our sense of acceptance and self-confidence,
- We feel valuable,
- Our stress decreases, we relax,
- It helps us make sense of our lives,
- A real bond is established between you and Aries.
These are the first things that come to mind. In addition, I’m sure you’ll have some additions when you think about this question. What did you feel when you looked at the list? Have you ever thought about how free you would feel with someone who truly listened to you?
If this is exactly where you feel you are missing, what you need is a “ COACH ” who can accompany you on your journey.
When you are involved in a professional coaching process; there is being in the moment, there is focus, empathy, powerful questions, reflection and sometimes even silence. There is a strong connection that all of these bring; there is a journey to the very heart of communication.
What do you think? Do you feel ready to be truly seen and heard? How about taking the first step?
Sinem Konuk Gelirli
Human Resources Manager, ADLER Certified Professional Coach
